Published: Thursday, 31 October 2013 01:33
Cassia, my assistant, wrote this story to demonstrate how she used the SpeakStrong Method in her daily life:
My computer had been whining for weeks, when Meryl finally advised me to take it to have it fixed. I took it up to a PC repair place and assumed the worse. I was relieved that the problem was most likely a busted fan.
I got my computer back the next day, but noticed immediately that it was having new issues. Bad issues. Naturally, I called the repair place to ask for them to look at it. I mentioned to the tech that this problems didn't start until after they had taken the computer apart. He dismissed this explanation and was confident that glitches were coming from the software. He ran several extensive scans, removed a few unnecessary files and handed it back with a bill of health. I paid him for his time but left uncertain.
I wound up doing this three times. On the third try, the tech finally followed my advice and began pulling apart the back panel to take a look. When he did, a screw popped out; it was apparent that the screw had been lodged in the RAM plates.
There was a screw screwing everything up!
I left relieved that my computer was finally going to be fine. It wasn't until later that I began to realize how many work hours I lost because of this, not to mention driving back and forth, and to top it all off, I was right! I knew it was a hardware issue and I mentioned it several times but each time it was dismissed.
Meryl came in again with her good advice, and recommended that I ask for a refund. She said that this was an opportunity to practice "speaking strong". It hadn't occurred to me to ask. I called the shop and calmly explained how much time I had lost because of this easily avoidable mistake and that I felt I ought to receive some sort of compensation. They issued me a full refund without hesitation.
The lessons are these: If I hadn't of asked, I wouldn't have received; and ALWAYS listen to your gut!
Published: Thursday, 24 October 2013 13:37
The past several times I called Lucy, I left voice-mail invitations which she never responded to. When I saw her, she told me she received them after whatever I invited her to was over.
Yesterday we had plans to go dancing. I knocked on her door the day of to confirm, and she didn't answer. It almost didn't occur to me to call. But I picked up the phone shortly before we were due to leave and dialed. Lucy picked up and told me she wasn't able to go because she was "slaving" away at her work.
Her busy-ness and wording are one story I will explore at some point - but now I want to talk about how my failed attempts at reaching her by phone led to an unconscious decision to give up trying to call her. That was a decision I made without consideration. It was based on experience, and certainly had a foundation, but it wasn't a conscious choice that would serve me in this situation. The lesson for me is to be aware of those decisions I make and decide if they do serve me or not.
"Keep asking," Lucy encouraged me. I'm glad she said that. I don't take her responsiveness personally - she's on a fabulous quest that is very consuming. But after reaching out unsuccessfully, it's natural to put her on my unconsious "do not call list." Who else has gone on that list without my being aware?
How about you? Do you send those signals? And, do you respond to signals like Lucy's without conscious choice?
Published: Wednesday, 23 October 2013 12:28
I bet you didn't know this. The term "Analysis" comes from the root "ana", which means "up", and lyst or lysis, which means "loosen". Analysis originally meant loosening up a problem or situation enough that it solves itself.
Ironic, huh?! Now we think of it as tightening.
Okay, here comes a story. Sunday I went to a wake while my hubby paid bills. It ended with dancing and was incredibly powerful. I wanted to talk about the power of the experience. He wanted to talk about paying bills for two hours.
We were in different places, psychologically speaking.
But I woke up yesterday filled with gratitude for all the things I don't have to do because my Analyzer hubby willingly does them. I got out the sticky notes and posted thank-yous all over the house. For example, I put a thank-you on the financial statements in appreciation for all the work he did transferring our accounts.
All in all there were about 20 sticky notes. He liked it when he started finding them. By the time he got to the tenth, he was moved. There are still a few here and there he hasn't found.
The Analyzer may not embrace the dance in the same way I do, but he provides a foundation for it.
The SpeakStrong Method starts within. I've internalized a lot of my hubby's habits, and they increasingly establish an orderly world I can dance, work and play in. My sticky notes spoke to my Inner Analyzer too. I'm loving the Analyzer I live with more and more, and The Analyzer in Me as well. Life is good, isn't it?
Published: Sunday, 20 October 2013 13:24
In Yann Martel's book Beatrice and Virgil, a music teacher tells his student:
- The only native talent required to play music is joy.
While that overstates the power of joy in my estimate, I was thrilled to see it so clearly stated.
In my revisions of the communication style landing pages, I found myself blocked while writing The Achiever in You landing page. I was baffled about why - I have plenty of Achiever in Me.
And then it hit me. The Achiever in Me was overreaching.
Writing these pages has literally been an ecstatic process for me much of the time. When the joy yields to effort and fatigue, it's time to take a break, not soldier on. I had pushed too long, so I decided to break until I felt my spirit ready to return. In my break, I found plenty to say both to and about The Achiever in Us, which I recorded for when the spirit moved me.
What is hard without spirit can be easy with it. And while I think there must be more needed to play music or write a creative landing page than joy, it sure does lighten the process.
Where has The Achiever in You overreached?
Remember: "An ounce of inspiration is worth a pound of willpower." Meryl Runion Rose. That was one of the gifts from my day of play yesterday.
Published: Friday, 18 October 2013 12:07
One of my readers responded to yesterday's post about napping by affirming her power naps. I loved it.
Today, I napped by sinking into a yoga pose while listening to Snatum Kaur sing Servant of Peace. When the song went into the Prayer of S.t Francis of Assisi, "Lord, make me an instrument of peace." I earnestly prayed that my SpeakStrong Method be an instrument of that peace.
That: Where there is hatred, let my creation sow love; Where there is injury, pardon; Where there is error, truth; Where there is doubt, the faith; Where there is despair, hope; Where there is darkness, light; And where there is sadness, joy.
I came out of that nap inspired. A true power nap takes you out of ego into wholeness. That was one great power nap.