"Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say Without Being Mean When You Say It" ~ Meryl Runion Rose                                ShoppingCart Plum NB 50

  • The Talk

    Do you say what you mean?

    Do you express your true self effectively? Or do words fail you?

    When your mouth opens, whose voice comes out?

    Being someone you're not is hard work. Being you is easy…once you get past persona.

     

  • The Walk

    Do you mean what you say?

    Do you honor your words? Can people count on what you say?

    If you don’t mean it, don’t say it. Talk your walk and then walk your talk. That protects the power of your words.

  • The Grace

    Do you say what you mean and mean what you say WITHOUT being mean when you say it?

    Are your words weapons, or expressions of wisdom?

    Sincerity is far more effective than brutal honesty. The SpeakStrong Method is gracefully effective.

  • The Method

    What is your communication method?

    Do you prepare for important conversations? Or do you wing it?

    It’s amazing what deliberate communication skill practice can do to help you express your true self effectively.

     

  • The Path

    You can go cheap or go deep.

    Persona projects an image. Personhood radiates you. Which will it be?

    The SpeakStrong Method isn’t for everyone. Let me help you tap in to the power of being “youer than you” and to express your true self effectively.

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Looking for some tips to push your weight around? This isn't the place. Looking for a way to express your true self effectively? This is for you. Read on.

I'm sitting at a table with conference attendees the day after my keynote. One woman tells me:

"During your talk, I turned to the gal sitting next to me and said: 'Meryl just said the opposite of what the speaker before her said.'"

"Thanks for noticing!" I

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Express your true self effectively. That's what Speaking Strong is all about! There are so many ways to tap in to your own authentic power. The resources below are just a few.

While communication excellence takes knowledge and skill, we know that Excellence Takes Practice. We aren't about theory here at SpeakStrong. We're about talking the walk AND walking the talk. 

So when we invite you to join us in our adventure, we're

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This page offers a plethora of fantastic tools and free resources.   Start with the Online Tools, where you can take the Communication Style Inventory and learn what style you lead with.  Online Tools also contains inspirational movies, an interactive exercise and a tutorial on how to use PowerPhrases!  You can view the SpeakStrong database of helpful articles, subcribe to the newsletter, blog, or quote of the day . There are also some free downloadable posters at

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I Works With Words Because Our Voices Matter

Hi. I’m Meryl Runion Rose. It pains me when good hearted and wise people are unable to speak the truth - unable to influence a situation. I'm talking about myself here sometimes too. When I know my input is just what a situation needs, it's important to be able to give it. 

I earned and MSCI, and a CSP. I identify more with my perspective as a  Communication Alchemist. I know the

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  • What is your Communication Style? +

    Assess to Express Your True Self Effectively My SpeakStrong Method has two free online communication quizzes for your personal and organizational use. Read More
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    If you're still wondering, "Is this Method right for me?", then click here to read a success story and learn more! Read More
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    Click Here to Read Meryl's Latest Blog! Read More
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"Mad Men" shows how messy communication improvement can be

madmendrapers 300I enjoy the show "Mad Men" for many reasons, one of which is the surprises. When the emotionally silent power broker Don Draper married his secretary Megan, I assumed it wouldn't be long before he shut her down and she became disillusioned, codependent, sarcastic and resentful. But instead of hiding behind a veneer of polite non-communication, when they bump up against each other, they let things fly, act out and dramatize. It's not polite, it's passionate.

But the really interesting thing is they eventually get to the heart of the matter and come out more intimate and loving than before. 

I once thought I was light years ahead of neighbors who had very vocal disagreements. Our house was quiet and polite—theirs got loud at times. Yet neither household seemed to resolve issues. Our silence didn't solve issues, and their drama didn't either. I'm not advocating drama. Loud doesn't get voices heard. There is something dysfunctional about a husband who drives off in anger—leaving his wife stranded (briefly) miles from home.

But what would you expect from people who have never had the experience of navigating emotionally charged topics as a team? It's a skill like any other, and needs to be practiced. When you practice a new skill, you make mistakes and things get messy. Your soft underbelly gets exposed—and if that scares you, you can find yourself striking out and hurting the people closest to you. Who likes that?

But if you really care, as Don and Megan do in the show, and if you get to the other side often enough, eventually the cycles get quicker, and resolution comes sooner.

So the kind of dramatics "Mad Men" fans are privy to this season both look and in many ways are dysfunctional—and yet they are a natural part of learning how to be authentic, intimate and loving. "Mad Men" shows how messy the process of communication improvement can be. If you don't understand how normal the mess can be on the road to greater intimacy and self-expression, you might shut things down just when they're really working. They're changing old habits. Until you have new habits to replace them with, you probably will feel like you dropped into chaos. Keep striving. Keep being willing to do it wrong until you get it "right." You'll find your footing at a higher level. It's worth it. 

 

 

 

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