Have you ever not spoken up and regretted it? Most of us have. Why did you hold your tongue? What are the communication barriers holding you back?
There are eight “lame” excuses people use to justify not speaking up when something needs to be said. As a bonus, there's one “shameful” excuse. There are also some good reasons. It's important for those who are committed to SpeakingSTRONG to know the difference between a reason and an excuse, and to address their excuses head on. Silence has its place in effective communicaton. But too many of us avoid taking a stand out of fear, avoidance or habit.
The first step of the SpeakSTRONG Method is to Seek significance. It involves stopping, seeing what is as is, and dropping old habits that don't serve you. It's important to get honest about our communication barriers. Understanding your lame excuses helps you overcome them. I go into much detail on this in my SpeakSTRONG book.
Greed. Going along gets us something we want. If that's the reason you don't speak up, you're probably not interested in Character-based Communication skills.
Take HEART before you embrace radical honesty. Some silence is golden. Sometimes not speaking is a sign of class, wisdom and far-sightedness. Silence is golden when,
Each lame excuse presents an opportunity for you to overcome your communication barriers and SpeakSTRONG. We have tools to address each of them. I recommend my SpeakSTRONG book to get the steps to address each barrier to effective communication.