A PowerPhrase Tutorial
If you watched my internet movie "A World of Truth", you know what my "perfect world" looks like. It is a world where the heartfelt truth communicates every time. It's a world where you don't have to craft your words with care because people listen to understand deeply. In the world we live in, it is in your best interests to finesse your words. However, many of us edit so much that our message is lost in the process.
To create your own effective PowerPhrases, become aware of what you would say in the perfect world where editing is unnecessary. Then use that as a foundation to edit your words to get the results you desire in the world we live in.
Have fun with it!
Pick a situation and write a freeform letter saying what you would like to say if you didn't have to worry about the result. Don't worry about making sense, being consistent or being fair.
Write what you think, feel, and want.
When you write what you think, consider:
1) What are the objective facts?
2) What is my opinion?
When you write what you feel, consider:
1) What might I be angry about?
2) What hurts?
3) What am I afraid of?
4) What do I regret?
5) Is there something I feel shame about that I do not want to admit to myself or the other person?
6) What am I happy about?
When you write what you want, consider;
1) What would I like this person to do?
2) What do I want this person to know?
There is no need to pretend. This is simply information to be considered in discovering what you will say. "I think... I feel... I want..." It all matters. When you're done, hit next.
Tip #1: This doesn't need to be about a conflict. You can pick anything you like.
Tip #2: If you're having trouble coming up with something, consider something that bugs you. Or, consider a deeply felt desire.
Tip #3: If you still don't have a situation to work with, try this one I use in coaching. Pretend someone asks your advice and then ignores it.
Tip #4: If you just start, you'll probably find that your writing will start to flow. Getting started is the hardest part.