WISHING YOU A TRANSFORMATIONAL NEW YEAR!
EMPOWERING YOUR COMMUNICATION IN 2011 MIGHT MEAN TAKING IT OFF STEROIDS (FREE WEBINAR REMINDER)
Is your communication on steroids? Much of our language is inflated, hyped and accelerated. We have lofty titles, embellished bios and evaluation systems that are so aggrandized that to give someone four out of five points is considered being critical. Plus, a lot of “normal” business language is violent. (Read the post below.)
Let’s pull the plug. Let 2011 be the year we take our communication off steroids and empower our true voices behind the noise. Join my New Year New You webinars to launch your New Year of communication. This communication makeover is really about uncovering the natural empowerment that comes from sincere expression. The first in this free webinar series is Jan 6 at 11 MST, 1 EST. capacity is 200. We’re at 100 now. Be there.
SPEAKSTRONG SHIFTS ITS MOTTO IN 2011
It’s time to make the change official. For years, the SpeakSTRONG Method has been guided by the principles of communicating clearly, kindly and directly. That has felt a bit restrictive for some time now. That’s why, in 2011, the guiding principles are changing to “speak: clearly, sincerely and effectively”.
Clarity communicates discernment – thoughts, facts and opinion. It gives voice to the mind. Clarity stays.
Kindness and sincerity are both communications of the heart. However, you can be kind without having your heart really in it. You can’t be sincere without having your heart really in it. “Kind” is transforming into sincere in the SpeakSTRONG motto.
Direct and effective communication both are communications of will. Directness is a quality I and many of my readers have needed to develop. However, sometimes a less direct approach is more effective than a direct one. We need to know how and when to be direct, and how and when to be indirect. We balance both approaches to be effective – and even transformative.
Would you like to develop the ability to speak clearly, sincerely and effectively in 2011? Join us for my New Year New You webinars. They’re free! How cool is that?
READER SUCCESS STORY: MORE JOKES AND NO DIGS THANKS TO A POWERPHRASE
This success story touched me. It’s author not only was effective in his use of a PowerPhrase, he was transformational. He addressed an issue without being confrontational, and shifted a negative communication dynamic to a positive exchange. Enjoy!
From a reader:
All the very best to you for this festive season.
It is a few years back that I came across your “Power Phrases”. With that in hand I started a journey which, so far, has included more books and courses etc. Self-confidence, skills at handling situations, happiness, contentment, better relationships and a level of control of my life that I have not experienced previously, are the byproducts of this journey.
A daughter and her family are visiting. She was making a few digs and negative comments which I noticed. I had done something and she said “Don’t worry family, that’s a Dad thing” So I considered if I would handle it, decided to do so and said “Help me understand what just happened, were you cracking a joke or having a dig at me?” She said “A bit of both”. I replied, OK, thanks, I thought it was a dig and a joke. Since then there are more jokes and no digs.
I appreciate your decision to share your skills and knowledge. You have made a wonderful difference in the lives of thousands of people and made, in that way, the world a better place.
COMMUNICATION BARRIER #2: COMMON VIOLENT LANGUAGE
My friend mentioned that he was slammed that afternoon. Running the risk of being a PIA (pain in the anatomy) I said it sounded painful. He replied that it was all good. I suggested there would have to be a better word than slammed for being busy with work you enjoy. He came back with, “I’m going to be spinning the wheels of commerce and industry at a break-neck pace until sometime this afternoon. Driving commerce in a manner not heretofore known.”
Clever, but still sounds violent. Broken necks and driving commerce create strong visuals.
If you think I’m being picky, you’re right. Our Izzies (reptilian brainlets) hear everything and react. The words we choose do matter. I’m lighthearted when I point that out, and only do it with people who will take it the way I intend. The words we choose affect us, and I like doing business in a non-violent way.
My friend liked my replacement words. I said: “You’re not slammed, you’re highly engaged. And you’re not driving commerce at break-neck speed, you’re attracting business at the speed of light.” He was ready to take his communication off steroids – he just needed tips about how to do it.
IT STARTS SO YOUNG – A GRUELING GAME OF DUCK-DUCK-GOOSE
I laughed a knowing laugh when I read a post about how a preschooler overheard his older siblings talk about how hard everything was at school. Not to be outdone, this child described a grueling game of duck-duck-goose. It is well worth it to read the original tale.
If you ever wonder where this kind of language begins, read and wonder no more. You probably learned something similar at a very young age yourself. Perhaps 2011 will be the year to unlearn it.
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NEW YEAR TRANSFORMATION READING
I’m encouraging everyone who is attending the New Year New You webinars to read my article about my own communication transformation, Some Boats Need to be Rocked. Even if you won’t be attending the webinar, I invite you to read it. It emphasizes how important it is to develop influence before the stakes get high.
Some boats need to be rocked
Thanks for your fabulous comments about the holidays. I was hoping for some comments from my readers in India and other traditions. How about it? It’s not too late. And I caught myself not being as inclusive as I thought I was. You can read about that here.
Holiday Sweetness comment My diversity blunder- read and comment