February 15, 2011
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Rude? Stupid? Dismissive? Or beyond busy?
I hear people complain that we’ve become rude as a society. Some of what seems rude could be a “busyness” world that has gone beyond busy.
I hear people complain that we’ve lost our ability to think critically. Some of what seems to be a lack of critical thinking could be the result of a “busyness” world that has gone beyond busy.
The need for speed requires us to be more clear and more engaging in our communication than ever. We can complain about how difficult it is to be heard above the noise. Or we can adjust. We can make it easy for people to give us what we want and we can be as clear as possible. We can do our homework before we open our mouths and use phrases that cut through the fog. That’s what the people who are succeeding in this new economy are doing. Think someone is being rude, stupid or dismissive? Maybe they are. Or maybe they need to do business with people who understand their busy-ness world and communicate accordingly.
Not everyone can or is willing to do that. If you can, you have a competitive advantage.
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Reader question: Tangential Exec
Note: this question came from the webinar last week.
Meryl, with one of my executives, I find myself completely lost until about 3/4 through the conversation because he will be talking about one subject and then jump to another one. How do I keep up and make sure we’re communicating appropriately?
Response – Note the difference in styles. Something like:
PowerPhrase: Sorry – I got excited and started talking too much about myself
Last week I read in “The M Factor” about a young man who blew an interview by talking too much. He requested a do-over and apologized, explaining that he had wanted this position so much for so long that he got excited and started talking about himself too much. The CEO gave him a second chance.
Last week I heard author Jill Konrath suggest having a recovery strategy when excitement gets us talking about what we do when it would be more effective to ask what others need. Her advice was similar.
- Sometimes I get so excited about my work that I talk too much. I apologize. Tell me more about…
It’s great when we get the balance right the first time. When we don’t, it’s useful to have a fall-back strategy.
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